Criticism: Are you guilty?

It doesn’t matter whether I’m coaching in business, sports or in the world of TV and Radio – there is one subject that just keeps on coming up.


Dale Carnegie (Thank you) puts it perfectly: Any fool can do it.

And so, my point to the person I am coaching is:

what makes you any better if you’re the one criticising or complaining about someone (or something)?’

Don’t get me wrong, when I see the behaviour of some very successful/ very senior people – I get why they stir up such a strength of feeling. It’s easy to lash out when the so – called ‘role models’ look and act like prats (yeah, I’m trying to be polite) – and it’s even worse when they are on TV or in the spotlight. Like football managers, team captains, and top bosses in business.

But two wrongs don’t make a right, right?

So rather than join them, hold your tongue and make damn well sure that your behaviour is worthy of respect and praise. And rather than criticise, condemn or complain, be the one that helps the person, or the business, or the team, become better than it is.

Anyone can criticise, but you don’t have to be one of the ‘guilty’ ones. You have a moment of choice just before you make the decision to act.

Instead, look for solutions – and take the lead. Even if that means you are ‘out there’ on your own.

I’m not saying it’s easy, especially when there are plenty of people around you putting their views across (usually behind someones’ back) .

But the right behaviour is a game changer. 

Your call.



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