It’s Valentine’s Day.
And all across the land there are people ,men and women,secretly waiting, hoping, and wishing that a special someone is going to surprise them by declaring their undying love exclusively for them.
Oh come on, you know you’ve thought about it….but perhaps you are one of the millions who don’t admit to it and instead poke fun out of the day as a money grabbing opportunity for retailers and flower shops alike.
But its still Valentine’s Day and I felt compelled to write about a different kind of love, a love that prevents most of us from ever finding that partner we are looking for.
It’s the love for ourselves.
Now, I’m not an airy fairy ‘tree hugging’ person about to talk to you about weird stuff. But I am a coach, and have been faced with people from all walks of life (some are wildly successful in the fields of business, sport and music) and who are all struggling with what, at the end of the day, really matters: LOVE.
Somehow we hope that finding love will answer all our prayers and solve our problems. It doesn’t (but that’s another blog post!).
But here’s what will: understanding more about you, and being totally happy with who you are.
When you are comfortable in your own skin, you feel happier and are a better person to be around, and have around. You could even say that you radiate attractiveness (EVERYone wants to see a smile, don’t they?) and in doing that you are way more likely to find the partner of your dreams because they in fact, find you.
You are much more noticeable when you are happy.
No one can underestimate the importance, and the power of self confidence and self esteem. Having the ability to believe in you, your capabilities, your best attributes and even the way you look at life can do wonders for your love life. When you realise that you are worth knowing, and have plenty to offer you’ll start to show it – consciously and subconsciously- and that my friends, is when the magic will start to happen for you.
So whilst you’re waiting for the flowers, cards …and stuff, take the opportunity to look at arguably, the most important love of your life – yourself. This isn’t about being cocky or arrogant, it’s about being the best you can be, in a humble, down to earth way.
Look at the positives in you, and push yourself to improve on the stuff you know you can do better with, but at the same time be happy about what you do have. Smile more – it’s free (and lasts far longer than Valentine’s Day!). Say hello more, chat more, take the time to listen to others more.
Don’t wait for someone else to come along, and bring you the love and happiness you long for. Put yourself in the Spotlight and look for reasons to be happy, right now. Love who you are.
Then someone else will.
amana
Straightforward, straight talking
The Spotlight Coach