Be a leader, by being a ‘friend’.
Have I not destroyed my enemy when I have made him into my friend?
Abraham Lincoln
Ahh, the great Abraham Lincoln said it well.
It’s as relevant for Football Managers/Leaders today as it has ever been.
More and more I come across the issue of ‘politics’ in sports and in the office. Ego that gets in the way, and people behaving badly because they are fearful of losing their position or authority.
If only they could see that , as a leader, when you change your approach and you change your attitude – everything changes FOR you.
Let me give you some more examples, from another ‘great’ – Mr. Dale Carnegie:
‘The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it’
and
‘Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person’
and
‘Show respect for the other person’s opinion. Never say ‘you’re wrong’.’
Does this make you look or feel like the weaker person?
Quite the opposite matey.
Everyone wants people on their side – very few are prepared to work hard to get it.
Why?….let’s be honest, because to do it you’d probably be out of your comfort zone, or you’d be taking risks, and you might even look a bit of a prat.
You’ll feel like others (yeah ok, the people who irritate you at work) will have the upper hand.
…well I hate to say it to you (but SOMEONE has to) – playing safe, or even ‘fighting back’ – will lose you the flippin’ very ‘battle’ you’re up against.
Become a friend though ?, lead by example?.. NOW you’re talking!
That’s when you will be listened to, respected and followed.
NOW. Isn’t THAT what you want to see in a great leader?
Hell YES.
So go on then, that’s your challenge .
Be a (BL***Y GOOD) leader. Be a friend. And Be prepared to change your approach.
Whether you are a Football/Sports Manager , or a different kind of Leader – I’m still talking to you.
And as we are at the start of the new football season,being in the spotlight gives you opportunities.
Use. Them. Well.
Amana
Straight talking coach, and Spotlight ‘Guru’